Most of us probably have a friend, or know someone who has a friend, that is particularly dramatic. That friend always seems to be on a roller-coaster of...
WELLBEING
Your erotic hungers
Covid is exhausting in a number of ways. When many of my UK friends are grappling with more lockdowns and restrictions, we are blissfully immune to it in...
My therapist says…
When I did my counselling training I would occasionally meet up for a drink with some of my psychologically minded friends. We would have a good chat,...
Let’s have a Kiki
Guatemala has just emerged from a five month lockdown. We had to bear the excruciating limitations of the curfew. When rushing back home before 6PM, I often...
You cannot escape The Shadow
It's almost the end of the rainy season in Guatemala. Almost! Many people are at the end of their tether and feeling rather hard done by as victims of the...
Painful existence
I have no idea why I tend to feel moved to write when I’m sick. The whole idea of this blog started after I spent several days banished to the confines of my...
Perceiving personal power
When I think of resilience I always imagine a sturdy little plant growing in the midst of a rocky and barren land. This is about thriving – not just surviving...
Your body is a temple
It’s almost the end of March. By now our New Year’s resolutions tend to fade into oblivion and many people lose their determination to exercise. Some more...
Jetsetter’s paradise?
If people look externally at my life at the moment, it seems to be a stress-free paradise. My clients see my face on a computer screen in various time zones...
Intoxicating beauty
Some places around the world are breathtakingly beautiful. Most of us must have had an experience of awe as we looked at a famous monument, a known landmark,...
The power of response
We have all seen a child throwing a tantrum at one point or another. We may have noticed the embarrassed parent, the demanding kid, our possible discomfort...
Mindful minds
mindfulness fills your mind with resources Everyone talks about mindfulness these days: your boss, your colleagues, your friends, your therapist, your coach...
Sex, drugs and boundaries.
Counsellors love mentioning boundaries... a breach of boundaries, enforcing boundaries, expecting boundaries, violating boundaries and what not. But what do...
Embracing disturbance through art
How come people differ so much in their talents? I’ve always wondered about this because I am absolutely hopeless when it comes to drawing, painting or any...
Autonomy and motivation
We all like autonomy. The feeling of freedom and being in control. The classroom is no different. Students are more engaged and have a greater sense of...
A nudge of curiosity
I don’t think I am the only person in the world that finds it hard to change, to implement new projects, to venture into unchartered territories of creation...
Perspective is the key
We all know that our perspective changes our perception, however when we are in the midst of an annoying, difficult or sad conversation we tend to forget it....
Investigating the nature of speed
“When you stopped me, you took me forward” was a phrase used by one of my coaching clients a few years ago. I had the privilege to work with a wonderfully...